Five lessons you can learn from the Banky W engagement story
Banky W recently announced his engagement to the love of his life and his love story has since become an encouragement and fuel to the confidence we Yoruba Demons and our Igbo Brothers have over the course of many heartbreaks.
After the news of the engagement, a lot of Yoruba demons, myself included have been going back to the drawing board and re-strategizing ways of getting into the heart of that very special one that means a lot to us.
But a lot of us still have not been able to grasp all the lessons from this Banky W saga and with that most will still fall into unsuccessful proposals. In this post, I will share five lessons you can learn from the Banky W engagement story.
1. It’s Still okay to slide into DMs: A long time ago, a lot of us gave up on the idea of sliding into DMs, after getting sarcastic replies, comebacks that will give Mama P a run for her money and at times being left on “read” we just lost hope with the ideas and methods altogether.
But with the story of Banky sliding into Adesua’s DM, it has given us a new hope about the 21st century way of striking a conversation with a love interest. I cannot begin to count the amount of DMs I’ve “slide” “sliden” “slided” or “slode” into since yesterday morning.
Moreover, our women are now more receptive to accept DM requests, so judging from Banky’s love story, it’s still okay to slide into DMs.
2. It’s okay to be in the Friend Zone but not stuck there: This is something not many of us are willing to hear or accept but according to Banky he was in the Friend Zone for two years+. He could have gotten any other girl within those two years period but no! he kept himself in the Friend Zone for the one he loves but he didn’t get himself stuck there, he knew how and when the time was appropriate to get out and stroll into the “Lover Zone.”
If you truly love, you’d be willing to wait for a little, even if it is for two years; there’s a silver lining at the end of the tunnel.
3: Play your game low key: Banky had been love struck since 2015, started dating since 2016 and got engaged in February but we heard nothing, not even the “allknowing” Linda Ikeji.
If it was someone else we probably would have had about his crush all over the Internet since 2015.
Unlike Adekunle Gold who wanted to secure a date with the actress and was tasked with getting fifty thousand retweets on Twitter, Banky W was busy in the background “lowkeyly” playing his cards and didn’t bring it out in the open until something tangible was produced out of the relationship.
4. Drop one or two hints here and there: From featuring Adesua Etomi in his “Made For You” music video, to attending events and presenting awards together to playing mushy tushy on the set of The Wedding Party (as reported by Sobowale and Kemi Adetiba).
Banky kept dropping hints all through the time he was in her Friend Zone, letting her know that he didn’t intend to remain there forever. Don’t just be a best friend, at times it’s okay to show a little love interest.
Let her know you want to be more than friends.
5: Know when to pop the question and stop playing games: For about a year, Banky W played the best friend game, then in 2016 he started with the lover boy zone and in February of this year he popped the question, expressing his feelings, desire and intention.
It takes a real Yoruba Demon to know when and actually pop the “will you marry me” question.
I just hope this Banky W love Story will give birth to and open the gates to many other similar and interesting scenarios.